I don't know, and feel tentative, and everything is really a question. However, I also feel I must try. I would rather have (low-key, low-effort) ambassador, or translator instead. Or several (separately or a group?) so it is only a little for any one person, but I am left with how things are for now. When I tried to ask for help from some as ambassador / translator before, it was misunderstood. It could be an 'include friends, family or partners' type communication or meet, if that is easier for anyone.

It is constructive acts of connection to find commonality in experiences, and to reach out to others - valuable and beautiful. Many are doing this, and it is vital and necessary for our social fabric.

And at the very same time, it seems that some people may need or want others' experiences to be identical to theirs and then may try to tell others what their experience is. However it’s obvious that experiences are wildly variable, and that no one can totally know another person’s experience. It is also possible to completely misunderstand or not know others' experiences at all, as well intentioned as one may be.  And some paths or experiences may be more outside the range of understandable experience than others. Why would anyone take offense, or maybe feel hurt, just because someone else has had a different experience?

When one points out that one's experience was/is not the same as other(s), some people may become upset, or even unkind. I don’t understand why, as it is no insult or offense to have a different experience than someone else, or most.

What’s confusing is that these same people would likely never tolerate anyone, such as an individual or a group, dictating to anyone what their experience was/is, getting it wrong, and likely causing negative effects for that person in the process.  But they may still inadvertently do this to others.

9/19/25

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Regarding 'a many,' or a big-picture situation, I understand now why there are so many stories and examples of difficulty from it. It is difficult to totally comprehend as it is so strange. However, it seems like big-picture situations are possibly, maybe, sometimes similar to forces of nature. Perhaps they may sometimes cause great difficulty in similar ways as forces of nature do. (Thanks for the title of " 'example city' or mort" - it seems pretty close to true, or possibly literally true depending on events.) Individuals may all be good and well intentioned, but if some small process begins that is not good, in a part of a big picture situation, it may not always be easy to shift it to be more constructive.

9/19/25